How to Regulate Your Emotions in Early Recovery
What is Emotional Dysregulation?
Emotional dysregulation’ is just a phrase to describe a difficulty in managing our emotions, which may interfere with our daily functioning at work and in our private life.
When we are distressed or going through interpersonal turmoil, our threshold for stress in life can reach very low levels. This means that we may have strong emotional reactions when we encounter a difficulty, or when things do not go the way we would like them to. We may become irritable towards our significant others, or our mood may shift abruptly from happy to desperate in a matter of few hours or even minutes.
This can be quite an unsettling state of mind. It is as if what we could handle until recently, suddenly becomes a hardship. Problems that we use to tackle without any effort can become insurmountable. These could be an argument with our partner or family, a deadline, burning a meal, or simply a crowded bus!
All of a sudden, all our resilience goes out of the window and we are left with a strong sense of inadequacy. To make things even more unbearable, people around us may be baffled by our reactions and pass comments that can hurt us even further. Typical comments that we can hear from others are: “Pull yourself together!”, or “what’s wrong with you?”. This happens in times when we actually need some compassion from ourselves others, rather than criticism.
Check out the video and referenced worksheets below.