What is The Emotional Freedom Technique?
An introduction from guest expert Veronica Valli.
Meet Veronica Valli: In her own words.
I’m a coach for people who feel like alcohol has hijacked their lives. Although they can’t imagine life without it, every time they drink or fail to control their drinking, they wake up feeling ashamed, guilty and frightened. I help them eliminate alcohol, so they are free to socialize, have fun and restore their health without ever feeling like they are “missing out.”
Twenty years ago I was drinking too much …
Throughout my twenties I drank heavily, more than I knew was good for me, I always sought a peer group who drank as much as I did. I drank before any social situation because I was too scared to face people; I drank before parties because I was scared there wouldn’t be enough booze there for me to get the “buzz” I needed. I drank anytime I felt scared and couldn’t cope, I began to sneak drinks and drink on my own. I drank because I thought that was how I had fun.
The truth was I felt suicidal. I would wake up the next day and felt like my soul had been scraped out and was lying on the floor next to me. I didn’t know how I was going to get out of bed let alone make it through the rest of my life. My feelings of loneliness and despair just grew.
I was slowly dying on the inside; it wasn’t the alcohol that was killing me, it was the lies that I was telling myself. I had to lie to myself as it was the only way I could deal with the fear inside of me.
” I always sought a peer group who drank as much as I did”
I was so scared to quit drinking …
I realized that the only way to create the life I wanted would be to stop drinking. The idea of never drinking was terrifying to me; I was only 27. How was I ever going to have fun again? But not only was I able to stop drinking, my life became fun and fulfilling. Finally, I became free of the prison I had made for myself; the only thing that had ever limited me was my thinking. Recovery gave me a new perspective on life; it gave me back my self-belief and confidence.
I am finally engaging in the process of reaching my full potential and becoming the woman I was meant to be. I am no longer living in fear I am just the opposite: I am fearless in everything I do. I no longer worry whether you like me or not because I love who I am. I wake up every day and find something to be joyful about.
I saw many people stop drinking but still have the same problems they had before. I knew there was a different way and for the last 17 years, I have helped thousands of people reach their full potential by being alcohol-free. I have worked as a therapist and recovery coach and now lead online programs so I can reach even more people. Learn more at veronicavalli.com
What is EFT?
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a revolutionary treatment method that offers healing from physical and emotional pain and disease. Without the use of needles, this form of acupuncture uses the fingertips to stimulate energy points on the body. Developed by Gary Craig, this is an easily mastered technique that can be performed virtually anywhere. This treatment sprang from the idea that, “The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.”
What is Emotional Freedom Technique Like?
EFT works by tapping on acupressure meridians to release blockages. When these blockages are released, the problem feeling can be released and move through the body. The process starts with a beginning statement of what the problem feeling is and includes a complete acceptance and acknowledgment of the problem. To start the process of EFT, the person would say something like, “Even though I have this (fear) about (the time I was criticized for being clumsy), I completely accept myself anyway.” Often that will not feel true to a person, so they would modify the statement to say, “I am willing to learn to accept myself” or “I want to accept myself.” The client says the statement three times while tapping on the karate chop point. In the second part of this treatment, the client focuses on the feeling (fear) in the body and rates it at an intensity between 1-10. Then the client begins to tap on points around the face while saying “this fear” simultaneously. Several rounds of this can be done until the fear is rated at a zero on a scale from 1-10. Once that fear is gone, the therapist will guide the client to feel “into” other fears that will then come up from different aspects of the same situation or emotional state.
Effectiveness of EFT
EFT is a very effective way of clearing out feelings, and when an unwanted feeling is gone, the limiting beliefs that the client held are released. New, more positive beliefs about themselves can emerge. Learning EFT also empowers the client to take charge of handling their emotional state because they can tap on a feeling any time they want to move out a painful feeling.
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