Purpose, Guiding Principles, Member Guidelines and Procedures.
The SoberSoul Recovery Lounge
Purpose, Guiding Principles, Member Guidelines, and Procedures.
The purpose of this group is to offer support, education, mentoring, gentle guidance and inspiration to women seeking recovery from a wide variety of issues, including substance use, overuse and addiction, trauma, codependency, loss and other life challenges. We are accepting of ALL pathways to a life in Recovery
Our group will work as Support Group. The general purpose of support groups is to help identify healthy, effective coping techniques, skills often geared to mitigating feelings of angst, fear, pain, and loss.
- To provide a great support network with other women in similar circumstances with similar feelings with whom they can share in an open and unedited fashion. Although not encouraged to be, for some people, this may be their only support network.
- To allow people to be where they are and validates and normalizes what they’re feeling. It’s a place for encouragement, not only from the facilitator(s) but from other members.
- A safe place to respect and treat each other as you would like to be treated. No negativity, self-righteousness, being judgmental with the other members, sexual harassment (this is not a dating site), spamming or solicitation.
- To learn and practice the difference between empathy and sympathy (See this Video).
Our Guidelines for Membership:
- Be kind
- Be compassionate
- Be motivational, encourage by using your own story not by giving advice
- Be engaged, the more you participate the more we all learn and grow. We need all of you to participate in order for this to work well!
- Be curious and ask questions.
- Be trustworthy, many of us have difficulty trusting others, so confidentiality is key to building trust!
- Be committed, your consistent participation and presence in this group are vital.
- Be You! We will embrace the parts of you kept hidden from the rest of the world!
- Learn to differentiate between thoughts and feelings…when you say “I feel that…”, or “I feel like…”, you are moving away from expressing feelings to expressing thoughts.
- Don’t give advice and suggestions.
- Don’t try to solve other member’s problems for them.
- Don’t blame or judge others.
- Be respectful, even when you don’t agree with a person’s position or behavior.
- Phrase your feedback so it is about your experience of the other person and not a judgment of how they are.
- Ask for feedback when you need it, seek clarification and avoid becoming defensive or making excuses.
- Confidentiality: Anything said between any two or more community members at any time is part of the community and is confidential. I understand that everything said in the community is confidential. I agree to keep secret the names of other members and what is said in any discussion. I understand that there is an exception to this confidentiality which applies to when or if you believe someone is in danger of hurting themselves or others.
- Safety: If you are concerned about the well-being of another member: DO NOT ATTEMPT TO HELP THE PERSON YOURSELF, contact Lynn directly. This group is not meant to address serious issues of mental health including, suicidal or homicidal intent, acute substance withdrawal, and other chronic or acute circumstances. However, due to the type of issues associated with addiction, depression, and anxiety, these issues will likely arise. The way we address these within our community is to immediately involve Lynn who is trained to handle these occurrences. firstname.lastname@example.org
- Dignity: No group member is ever humiliated, hazed, or abused in any way. I agree to avoid this destructive behavior.
- Violence or intimidation: Violence or intimidation toward other group members is never tolerated. I understand that I must never be violent or intimidating toward other group members and that if I threaten to harm persons or property I will be asked to leave the group. Please report any issue immediately to Lynn. email@example.com
- Alcohol and/or other Drug use: It is encouraged that group members acknowledge when under the influence of alcohol or other mind-altering drugs while participating in a community discussion. When under the influence of chemicals, persons do not have access to their emotions and have less control over their behavior. We often will have a very different conversation with someone under the influence, a much more gentle and supportive stance is usually necessary. If a behavior is dangerous or concerning, please immediately contact Lynn. firstname.lastname@example.org
- Gossip: Gossip and secret grudges can be very destructive in a group. I agree that if I have something to say to another group member, I will try to say it to the member directly rather than talk about her behind her back.
The principles of SoberSoul Recovery, The SoberSoul Recovery Lounge, and any community/group communication are not a replacement for professional medical or mental health help, they are not meant to replace treatment for active addiction or acute withdrawal.
Please seek advice from a professional as needed. If you experience an acute emergency, please call 911 for assistance.
→ By reading the above, I hereby agree to follow the above principles, guidelines, and procedures for this community.